I have done this. Stepped outside myself, out of discomfort, out of fear, out of just having been trained to judge instead of be. Judged others. Judged myself.

I stop. I breathe. I ask myself, “What are the words I want to transmit here? What am I trying to say?”

In my growth and being, I have come across others who thought I should be more like them. That I should join them on their path. Think their thoughts. Have their goals. This is not just the normal, muggle types. I’ve pretty much given over that I most likely will never full that path for them.

I’m talking spirit walkers. Those seeking to connect to higher & lower in a manner that resonates with me. For the most part.

Until they start using old paradigm judgment on me. The subtle guilting. “Why aren’t you doing as I do?’

This is something I have always met. I have a harsh and horrible inner judge. She calls out the others. So I have faced the guilting. The shaming.

But lucky me, I have had moments of grace. Moments when I knew, *KNEW*, that all was well. Even that I was perfect in my imperfection and walking in light and love and all manner of goodness. Even as I struggled with not quite getting it right.

I’m learning to identify when I’ve let loose my judge and she’s speaking through someone out there. That’s when I realize it’s time to love myself more.

Spend less time judging others, too. Asking them to come to my level, see life from my vantage, just get with the fucking program (which is my program, and not theirs, so they won’t be getting with it, anytime soon, as in NEVER).

So, if you think you might be helping me by shaming me into your belief system, and hurrying me along my path to a different destination, I’m sorry, you’re wrong.

Back off. Sit down. Look inside.